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What makes a good manager?

2 June 2009 Steve Leave a comment
Directions
The first thing to get people to run in the right direction is to give them bearings. Which direction do we want to be running? A manager should be responsible for that and on the steering wheel at all times. If we leave it up to the young and eager developers we’ll all be running really hard, but probably in opposite directions. The first thing a manager needs to do is direct people in the right way. This cannot be forced however!
Leadership
If somebody is being force fed he’ll throw up eventually, leaving a big mess behind. The thing with good managers is that the people usually come to them to ask them for advise on how and what to do. It is a combination of both knowledge and a natural born leadership capacity that makes this work. You can not rest assured however that this will continue to work without effort.
Patience
People will only keep continue to ask their manager on what and how to do things as long as the manager is approachable and patience. A good manager cannot be out of office most of the day and should take time to really send somebody in the right direction. That takes skills.
Teaching
Teaching is one of those skills. A good manager will not give you the answer to your questions. It will ask you questions that will get you to your answer. A good manager is like an oracle. Teaching is not about using a red pen and pointing out what somebody is not good at. It is the opposite way around.
Appointments
Another thing that makes a manager a good manager is that he or she can delegate responsibilities without losing track. They’ll have to have authority to make people work for them and they should not be afraid to point out to someone that he or she is lacking behind. Again, this cannot be forced, it’s got to be something that comes naturally.
Bonding
The last thing I would like to mention is bonding. A good manager is the glue of a group of workers. All workers need to trust the manager to cover their backs if they do what they were told to do. A good manager can scent frustrations within a group, and knows when to act.

Directions

The first thing to get people to run in the right direction is to give them bearings. Which direction do we want to be running? A manager should be responsible for that and on the steering wheel at all times. If we leave it up to the young and eager developers we’ll all be running really hard, but probably in opposite directions. The first thing a manager needs to do is direct people in the right way. This cannot be forced however!

Leadership

If somebody is being force fed he’ll throw up eventually, leaving a big mess behind. The thing with good managers is that the people usually come to them to ask them for advise on how and what to do. It is a combination of both knowledge and a natural born leadership capacity that makes this work. You can not rest assured however that this will continue to work without effort.

Patience

People will only keep continue to ask their manager on what and how to do things as long as the manager is approachable and patience. A good manager cannot be out of office most of the day and should take time to really send somebody in the right direction. That takes skills.

Teaching

Teaching is one of those skills. A good manager will not give you the answer to your questions. It will ask you questions that will get you to your answer. A good manager is like an oracle. Teaching is not about using a red pen and pointing out what somebody is not good at. It is the opposite way around.

Appointments

Another thing that makes a manager a good manager is that he or she can delegate responsibilities without losing track. They’ll have to have authority to make people work for them and they should not be afraid to point out to someone that he or she is lacking behind. Again, this cannot be forced, it’s got to be something that comes naturally.

Bonding

The last thing I would like to mention is bonding. A good manager is the glue of a group of workers. All workers need to trust the manager to cover their backs if they do what they were told to do. A good manager can scent frustrations within a group, and knows when to act.

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Points in Life

31 January 2009 Steve Leave a comment

1. Fear God and you will have no cause to fear any one.

2. Resignation to the Will of God is the cure of the disease of the heart.

3. The word of God is the medicine of the heart.

4. Lead such a life, that, when you die, the people may mourn you, and while you are alive they long for your company.

5. The days of life pass away like clouds, so do good while you are alive.

6. Of all the follies the greatest is to love the world.

7. Opportunity is swift of flight but slow to return.

8. Pride, cowardice, and miserliness are bad for me but good for women.

9. The most happy is he to whom God has given a good wife.

10. He who knows himself knows God.

11. Do not soil your conscience for anything but heaven

12. The disease of the heart is worse than the disease of the body.

13. To fight against one’s desires is the greatest of all fights.

14. The strongest amongst you is he who subdues his self.

15. Wealth and greed are the roots of all evils.

16. Riches without faith are the greatest poverty.

17. A man’s worth depends upon the nobility of his aspirations.

18. Knowledge enlivens the soul.

19. The learned lives, although he dies.

20. The sum total of excellence is knowledge.

21. To respect the learned is to respect God.

22. Generosity hides shortcomings.

23. The wealth of a miser is as useless as a pebble.

24. Desire is one’s most inveterate enemy.

25. Those who walk on the surface of the earth shall one day be interred in it.

26. Every breath of man brings him nearer to death.

27. People are asleep as long as they are alive, they are awakened when they die.

28. Patience is the fruit of faith.

29. Virtue never dies.

30. A man’s glory from his virtue is greater than the glory of his pedigree.

31. No shelter is safer than piety.

32. A man’s behavior is the index of his mind.

33. Courtesy costs nothing but buys everything.

34. Clemency graces power.

35. Jealousy devours virtue as fire devours fuel

36. He that lends a listening ear to reproach is one of those that deserve reproach.

37. Forgiveness is she crown of greatness.

38. Carnal appetites are nets spread by the devil.

39. Every arrow does not hit the mark, nor every prayer granted.

40. Ostentatiousness spoils prayers.

41. Fear none but your sins.

42. He who praises you murders you.

43. A man who praises himself displays his deficiency of intellect.

44. Honor your parents and your sons will honor you.

45. A man is hid under his tongue.

46. The tongue of a wise man lies behind his heart.

47. The tongue pierces deeper than the spear.

48. He who purifies his heart from doubt is a believer.

49. The opinion of a wise man is an oracle.

50. To seek counsel is to go to the fountain of guidance.

51. Association with a fool is tyrannical to the soul.

52. God hastens the fall of tyrants.

53. Tyranny leads to moral cowardice.

54. A tyrant’s success is his moral defeat.

55. It is better to die than to beg.

56. When a man begs he loses his faith.

57. Hajj is the Jihad of every believer in faith.

58. A wise enemy is better than a foolish friend.

59. Silence is the best reply to a fool.

60. The best speech is one that is short and reasonable.

61. Speech is like a medicine, a small dose of which cures but an excess of which kills.

62. He that has no courage has no religion.

63. His grief is long whose hope is short.

64. The right of freedom of speech consists in speaking the truth.

65. Repentance washes away sins.

66. Folly is an incurable disease.

67. To assist the wrong is to oppress the right.

68. Sinning is a disease, repentance is its medicine, and abstinence from it a sure cure.

69. Sorrow makes a man old before his time.

70. Pride impedes progress and mars greatness.

71. To forgive is the crown of greatness.

72. He who understands humanity seeks solitude.

73. Right is the best argument.

74. Misrepresentation spoils narration.

75. As a man’s wisdom increases, so his desire to speak decreases.

76. He who seeks to do justice with men, let him desire for them what he desires for himself.

77. The greatest sin is the sin that the sinner considers to be ordinary.

78. Contentment is the asset which is never exhausted.

79. Governments are a trial for men.

80. He who fights against the truth, the truth will defeat him.

81. Finding fault in others is one’s greatest fault.

82. Haste is a species of madness.

83. Greed is perpetual enslavement.

84. He who does not know his own worth is doomed to destruction.

85. The best investment is one with which duties are performed.

86. Anger is a fire kindled, he who restrains anger extinguishes the fire; he who gives vent to it is the first to be consumed by such fire.

87. Jihad is the highway of prosperity.

88. None is more solitary than a miser.

89. Knowledge is the ornament of the rich, and the riches of the poor.

90. Knowledge is the sum total of excellence.

91. He who teaches you a letter binds you with a fetter of gratitude.

92. As long as we do not hope, we do not fret.

93. He who indulges in jokes and loose fall, loses a part of his wisdom.

94. Truth is bitter, but its result is sweet; falsehood appears to be sweet but it is poisonous in its effect.

95. Miserliness is the root of many evils.

96. Knowledge and practice are twins, and both go together. There is no knowledge without practice, and no practice without knowledge.

97. He who dissembles plays with his honor.

98. When God wants to humiliate a person He deprives him of knowledge.

99. When your power increases, decrease your desires accordingly.

100. He who listens to a backbiter loses a friend.

101. It is no justice to decide a case on mere conjecture.

102. He who does not know his own worth is deemed to ignominy.

103. He who practices thrift would never be in want.

104. He who does not know should not be ashamed to learn.

105. Patience is to faith, what head is to the body. When patience goes, faith goes, when head goes, the body goes.

106. The grace of God is the best guide.

107. A good disposition is the best companion.

108. Wisdom is the best friend.

109. Good breeding is the best inheritance.

110. There is nothing more hateful than pride.

111. Be among men like bee among birds.

112. Mix with the people with your tongue, but be separate from them in your deeds.

113. Be generous but do not be a spendthrift.

114. Do not run after the world, let the world run after you.

115. A wise man is he who does not despair of the bounty and mercy of God.

116. He who is aware of his own faults is oblivious of the faults of others.

117. What the eye sees the heart preserves.

118. The vision of the eye is limited; the vision of the heart transcends all barriers of time and space.

119. Do not be misled by appearances for these are apt to be deceptive.

120. Do not have too many irons in the fire; concentrate on one thing at a time.

121. What you do not like for your self, do not like it for others.

122. Contentment is the treasure which is never exhausted.

123. The advice of old men is dearer than the bravery of young men.

124. That knowledge is superficial which is merely on the tongue. That knowledge is real which demonstrates itself in your practice.

125. Waste of time is one’s greatest loss.

126. He who knows to keep his secret knows the way to success.

127. Foresight is the way to safety.

128. No relationship is stronger than the relationship that exists between man and God.

129. Enlighten the heart with prayers.

130. Strengthen your heart with faith.

131. Suppress all lust with piety.

132. Do not sell the Hereafter for the world.

133. Do not speak in a state of ignorance.

134. Refrain from unnecessary talk.

135. Do not tread the path from which you can apprehend the danger of running astray.

136. In the affairs of God, do not be afraid of the accusations of the evil mongers.

137. In all that you do seek the protection of God.

138. Do not covet what is undesirable.

139. If you seek the truth neither stray from the right path, nor be assailed by doubts.

140. Do not become a slave of your desires.

141. That wealth is no wealth which brings dishonor.

142. Whatever harm accrues of silence can be remedied but whatever harm is done because of speech cannot be remedied.

143. It is better to restrain your desires than to stretch your hand before others.

144. A little that is earned because of honest labor is better than a larger amount gained through dishonest means.

145. Guard well your secret.

146. He who seeks more than what is necessary indulges in error.

147. To oppress the weak is the worst tyranny.

148. Do not bank on false hopes for that is the capital of the dead.

149. A wise man takes a lesson even from a minor lapse.

150. Overpower desires and suspicions by patience and faith.

151. He who does not take the middle course strays.

152. A stranger is he who has no friends.

153. When hopes are frustrated despair becomes the way of life.

154. He who trusts the world, the world betrays him.

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Don’t Change the World, try to adjust yourself

31 January 2009 Steve Leave a comment

Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country. One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country.

When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony. He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather. Definitely, this would need thousands of cows’ skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.

Then one of his wise servant dared himself to tell the king, “Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money ? Why don’t you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet?”

The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a “shoe” for himself.

There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story : to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself – your heart; and not the world.

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Trials in life

31 January 2009 Steve Leave a comment

Trials in life can be tragedies or triumphs, depending on how we handle them. Triumphs don’t come without effort.

A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.

The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn’t have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.

When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.

Apply this same principle to our lives. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without a struggle.

As parents we tend to hurt the ones we love most because we don’t allow them to struggle to gain strength.

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WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN’T WE?

31 July 2008 Steve Leave a comment

This is a true story that happened in Japan .

In order to renovate the house,someone in Japan breaks open the wall.

Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.

When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there

because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet.

He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail,

it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was! First built..

What happened?

The lizard has survived in such a position for 10 years!!!!!!!!!!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling..

Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years! Without moving a single step–since its foot was Nailed!

So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, another lizard appears from somewhere, with food in its mouth.

Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply.

For the lizard

That was struck by the nail; another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years…

Imagine? It has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner.

Think,…….. will u do that for your partner?
Think …….. will you do it for your Mom?

Who gave birth to you after a struggle of nine long months?

Or at least to your Dad, Friends, Co-workers, brothers and Sisters?

Imagine what a small creature can do …………….that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can’t.

As information and communication technology advances,

our access to information becomes faster and faster.

But the

Distance between human beings . .. . gets greater and greater…….

Please never abandon your loved ones

Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You…

You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet……

But You Might Be The Only World To Them….

A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loves you thru all odds….

Before you say something just remember. It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make…
To Live Use Heart and to Survive use Brains.

Then Life would be a paradise Unfurling only Love, Joy and
Happiness….

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True story – You alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them

10 June 2008 Steve 3 comments

Ours was an arranged marriage. It was done the traditional way. Our Parents took care of everything. My only condition was that she should be ready to work. Our horoscopes and photos were exchanged. Everything Matched. I spoke to her over the phone. We talked about things two strangers would talk. She was a lecturer in Bangalore who felt Chemistry was more important than Hindi movies. There was no engagement. The date for marriage was fixed in 2 weeks as I could not get a vacation after that. Even the vacation time I got was just 10 days.

Everything was fixed. It was supposed to be very hectic for me. We got married and 2 days later we had to leave the country. She cried like there was no tomorrow when we left. She would not talk to me on the plane. I thought that was usual for an Indian girl. I thought she would get over it. Once home she would not talk to me. She sat in a corner staring at the TV. For the first couple of days I had to catch up on some work and did not take her mood seriously.

A week later I sat beside her and asked her, “What is wrong?”

“Why did you bring me here?”

“What do you mean? What happened?”

“I want to go home”

“This is your home”

“No. I want to go home. Please buy me a ticket”

“Look, everybody feels homesick. I did when I came here the first time. It is normal. You will get over it. Sorry I have been busy with work.

We can go out this weekend. You will meet my friends and other people who will be very friendly. Come on be a good girl”

“I hate this place. I miss my family, my friends, my college. All the people I know are not here. I want to go home”

“Think for a minute. Try to reason it out yourself. What is your plan by the way? So you want to go back and never come back?”

“Yes”

“Are you crazy?”

“If you think this is crazy then I am.”

“It is ok if you do not answer this question. Is there someone else?”

“No. I want to go home. I will call 911 if you do not send me”

“First cool down. Think about it. Think about our parents. It is less than a month that we got married and now you want to return home. You very well knew that you had to come here. What were you thinking? Even if you are returning home what happens to our marriage?”

“I am not blaming you. I take the blame. It is my mistake. I can’t stay so far away from my family. If you are so interested come to India”

“I am family too! What you are asking is ridiculous.”

The next day she would not change her mind. I called my folks. They said that it was my decision and they would stand by me. I booked her ticket and put it in her hand the next evening. She was to leave in 2 days.

Nothing would convince her to change her mind. She was crying like a kid. Then she left.

She had done nothing for me to miss but something inside me was telling me that I was at fault. I tried to shake it off but as time grew I started feeling more guilty. I called her. She made it clear that she did not find me despicable but she would not leave her city. Her parents apologized profusely but they were helpless too.

I have had crushes. None of them were serious. There was this girl in my high school tuition whose phone no I managed to find out. Then the prettiest girl in college whom everybody loved, who talked to me once. Then the girl from my city who was at my university in USA who made me feel at home when I visited her place. I had ignored them once I crossed their paths. But Anjali was my wife. I could not ignore her.

I decided to quit my job. I went home. No one back home knew I was returning. I wanted to surprise her. I dropped off my bags at my place and went to the college she was teaching. The gate keeper would not let me in. So I had to wait outside for the classes to get over.

She walked out alone, struggling to carry her bag, tired, with slow steps. She was walking towards the bus stop. I silently followed her and went behind her and whispered, “Do you mind if I carry your bag?”

She was startled and turned to face me. Her eyes lit up. I was not sure if I could hug her. I was smiling and she had a 100 questions written all over her face. “I want to spend a week with you in this city. Show me the things that you could not miss”

That one week went in a jiffy. She was treated a kid at home with all the comforts. That explained her behavior. Coffee was brought to her in the morning. Even her dress was laid out for her. She would have breakfast and leave. The bus journey was an hour. She would sit near the window with a book. Then once in the college she would teach her classes and come out tired in the evening. She would stand in the crowded bus carrying her bag which would look heavy. Then she would alight, go home, have a snack and would head out to a friend’s place. Some times she’d stay home watching TV or listening to music. When her dad returned she would join him and they’d have dinner. Then her mom would tuck her in bed. Weekends were not much different. She would sleep late, wake up for breakfast and lie down talking on the phone. Then she would visit the temple in the evening and would have her singing lessons. Then she would eat out and would head home late.

That was her life. It was something every human being wanted – simple, content and happy. Of course to her I was a villain. I told her that I understood her. I wanted to know if it was ok if she stayed in the same city but away from her parents. Her only condition was that I should not stay at my parent’s place to which I agreed. So we moved into a small apartment. She knew nothing. She had to be taught everything. She learnt. It was hard to make her understand that she had duties and she had a husband. Coffee had to be brought to her in the morning. She made the rules and broke them. She did not care for me. Sometimes she would not return home but go to her parents’ place without informing me. I would have had to go bring her back.

Slowly she started realizing about married life. She would wake up before me, try to cook, agree for a movie, visit my friend’s place, invite me to her college, let me dress her up, dance in front of me, teach me Chemistry, talk about her crushes, play cricket with me, make me cry for a change. She was growing mature day by day. One day she apologized for the whole thing. I brushed it aside. Finally I had her the way I wanted.

Today I am happy and content with my life. She is still there crying to get her things done. I keep reminding her how she had threatened to call the police. She laughs it away. Some times I wonder how life would have been if I had not returned. Then again some things are left as they are.

That’s how life is…

There are two ways of meeting difficulties:

“You alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them”

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Ten Commandments for Peace of Mind

27 April 2008 Steve 1 comment

How to attain mental peace
Peace of mind is the most sought after ‘commodity’ in human life. It appears that most of us are in a state of perpetual restlessness. On analyzing the causes of this restlessness, I have ventured to find for myself ten solutions that need to be followed religiously if we are serious about achieving perfect peace of mind.

1. Do not interfere in others’ business

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic, and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.

This kind of attitude on our part denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God, for God has created each one of us in a unique way.

No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because they are prompted to do so by the Divine within them. There is God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind your own business and you will have your peace.

2. Forget and forgive

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often nurture ill feeling inside our heart for the person who insults or harms us. We forget that the insult or injury was done to us once but by nourishing the grievance we go on excavating the wound forever. Therefore it is essential that we cultivate the art of forgiving and forgetting. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forget, forgive, and march on.

3. Do not crave for recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motive. They may praise you today because you are rich and have power but no sooner you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and start criticizing you.

Moreover, no one is perfect. Then why do you value the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave for recognition? Believe in yourself. People’s praises do not last long. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to God.

4. Do not be jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know you work harder than your colleagues in the office but they get promotions, you do not. You started a business several years ago but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. Should you be jealous? No, remember everybody’s life is shaped by his previous Karma that has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich, not all the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere, but will only give you restlessness.

5. Change yourself according to the environment

If you try to change the environment single handedly, the chances are you may fail. Instead, change yourself to suit the environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has remained unfriendly for you, will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure what cannot be cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond our control. We must learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, “God will it so, so be it”. God’s logic is beyond our comprehension. Believe it and you will gain in patience, in inner strength, in will power.

7. Do not bite more than you can chew

This maxim should be always remembered. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable to carry out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Spend your free time on prayers, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind, which make you restless. Fewer the thoughts, greater is the peace of mind.

8. Meditate regularly

Meditation makes the mind thoughtless. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, you will tend to become calm during the remaining twenty-three and a half hours. Your mind will not be disturbed as much as before. This will increase your efficiency and you will turn out more work in less time.

9. Never leave the mind vacant

An empty mind is devil’s workshop. All evil deeds start in the mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. You must decide what you value more – money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even if you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name (japa).

10. Do not procrastinate and never regret

Do not waste time in wondering “should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Always remember God has His own plan too. Value your time and do things. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can rectify your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET! Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the will of God. You do not have the power to alter the course of God’s will. Why cry?

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Tyre puncture

24 September 2007 Steve Leave a comment

I was going to my home town last week end (22 Sept 2006) at 6 AM from Trivandrum. The front left tyre got punctured at a place called Thampanoor. On replacing the tyre with the spare one, I drove till parasala suddenly another tyre got punctured. To my luck there was a puncture shop near by to the location. Got it alright and I drove back home.

It was one of the worse moment in my life I had in driving the car !!!

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Is Money everything in life…

12 September 2007 Steve 3 comments

Strange question… you must be thinking… and that too from a person who has a dream of becoming an investment banker or an equity researcher one day in life. 

Well… Of course… Money is the most important thing in life… can you imagine life without money… How do you live in this world if you don’t have money… can you live life with love, emotions, jazbaats. Most of the rich and rocking people would dismiss this idea as an act of stupidity or as a joke but it is true…  

Money is not the most important thing in life.… the most important thing is love… you live in this world to get love, to give love, to make people happy especially your loved ones, you want them to live life king size… but without money… in your dreams…

YES. Money is essential but not important… when this is a fact and when everyone knows about it, then why do people still go after the green paper, why are brothers in the family fighting for properties, why are children killing their parents for it, why are fathers getting their children kidnapped for it, why does dacoity happen, why do politicians have unruly elements in their parties and why do people sell their self esteem for money… why… why… why…

Does anybody have the answers… I don’t have it… 

But I will take a step towards answering them: 
1)      Social Status (which comes from false praising others)
2)      EGO (people think they are the six sigma of GOD’s creation)
3)      FEAR (what will others say !!!)
4)      Philosophy (That Money can buy anything – rubbish)

Probably there are many more reasons… endless… countless… and Gainless…  

The problem is even after knowing the reasons we cannot do anything…. For example… I know the above 4 reasons… but there is not even one reason which I will give up when I wake up tomorrow… why… I will still think “what will others say”… I will still live in fear… will still have my EGO… the false social status… I will still try to save every penny I can…

Why am I doing an MBA… when my aim in life is a simple “Keep my parents happy”… when I cant spend a bloody single day with my parents… To Hell with money and to hell with MBA… but I am to weak to accept that and my EGO keeps rejects that idea… So I will continue to pursue my education when I wake up the next day… I cant even be proud of myself…

What a LIFE !!!…. (I hope not to be a human being the next time…  Please…)

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The Two Most Important Practices in Life

6 September 2007 Steve Leave a comment

The two most important practices in life necessitate the proper management of time and the continual development of personal relationships.  Possessing an elite social status with an abundance of money, a solid education, and even perfect health will seem irrelevant in the face of routine loneliness.  What’s the point in striving for personal success if you don’t have anyone to share your story with, or enough time to enjoy it?

All too often in the news we read success stories supporting the endeavors of young career professionals that put “their lives” on hold while in pursuit of the prestigious career and job title of their dreams.  I’m not saying it’s wrong, I truly believe you should pursuit your dreams.  Putting all your effort into achieving something you truly desire makes sense… it is basis behind the American dream.  However, there must be a balance.  The time spent on business matters can never be recovered.  If sufficient time is not allocated to fostering new relationships and nurturing current ones, will the end result suitably reflect the original envisioned dream, or will it leave something to be desired?

Remember, you can easily invest your time in exchange for money, status, education, and health; but nothing can buy you more time.  Make sure you spend it wisely, leaving enough time for the people you care about most.

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